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Katherine de Vos Devine's avatar

I'd like to help make you a "woman of significant means" because I want to read your "bestsellers" and buy tickets to fund your "exorbitant speaking fees" so I can hear all your "weird ideas."

Write things, and I will pay for them. Schedule talks, and I will come.

Anyone else? We all agree on this plan, yes?

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Jen's avatar

Reading this after I just canceled my subscription to homeculture because I'm getting divorced and I need to scrimp and save. Because I live in Denver and work as a community organizer and I'm realizing my entire career has been subsidized by my husband's male-dominated work's income.

Really feeling how much our systems make it so women have to rely on their male partner. Not only in terms of cost of leaving (emotionally as well as financial) but things like-- my credit score is poor because his was better which meant we always put things on his credit and mine didn't get any play which means its harder for me to get housing.

And even though I don't need to leave a bad situation like abuse, the Big reason is because I'm gay and when I came to that realization I couldn't put the genie back in the bottle, so to speak, and not living your authentic self is a massive cost. I'm so so craving that community aspect to the Fellowship, especially as a recently single queer parent. I know parents (who are married), I know divorced people (who are child-free), I know queer people (who are child-free and single). And I need the support with the rupture that is the end of my marriage (to a person I love), the simultaneous coming out, the childcare that's happening through it all, and the weight of it all.

So that's a big long TMI post to say, yes, god, please, I want to live in a world where the Fellowship exists. And thank you for the comradery that comes from just wishing for it.

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